A friend recently posted a question on their wall pondering how people with differing opinions get along. This is the continuation of a theme I see going on in a lot of my friend’s worlds these days. It hasn’t been lost on everyone either as my co-hosts on the Fourthought live stream also mentioned it. There is a dissention among the ranks that appears unlike any we’ve had in recent memory. No one seems quite sure how to get along with other people whom so clearly and blatantly disagree with their own knowledge base.
I answered that friend’s question with my best explanation. I disagree with someone and someone disagrees with me, but we still get along in order to work together or have a good time on this planet. We don’t talk about it. We agree to disagree. But how? How can we stand each other? How can we set aside our differences when they are so different? Which made me think that being polite and somewhat politically correct (even while being politically incorrect) has gone by the wayside. Much like every riotous movement on this globe it seems as though everything we do has been exaggerated into complete oblivion in the 21st Century.
It almost seems like an alien concept that two people who completely disagree can be in the same room together. Which baffles me because it comes to my mind that I’ve labored alongside people I can’t stand for my entire life and we’re doing just fine. It’s called being an adult. It’s called letting everyone be themselves. It’s called, “You can have your KKK Family Reunion in your backyard so long as I can have my BDSM Orgy Reunion in mine.”
This is what grown mature level-headed people are supposed to do. They leave each other alone but understand they have to work together. They have to live near each other. We are humans cramming ourselves into little boxes that sit next to each other. We need to let each other be. Thinking you can convince another person of your version of right does not work because you will never get everyone to agree.
So, yes, I do understand that someone may loath my guts and just be humoring me so as to accomplish a similar goal. I understand and am at peace with that because I hate their guts and am humoring them right back. Most humans hate each other. It’s what they do and yet this seems to come as a great shock to everyone.
Somewhere along the line our contempt for each other and refusal to “just get along” has brought out the worst in us. Now we’re showing our emotions on our sleeves and we have no idea how we’re supposed to make nice. Everyone is right and if everyone is right then everyone else must be wrong. Somewhere along the line this leads to bans on other humans. It leads to people in ovens. It leads to today’s rainstorm being that of bombs instead of precipitation. It leads to us living in a toxic cloud until we all snap out of it and start humoring each other again, keeping our little bigoted rallies in that of our own backyards once more.
You don’t have to agree with someone to get along with them. You don’t need to school each other on what each of you believe to be right or wrong. But you do have to compromise. You do have to shut your mouth when you know it’s going to lead to WWIII. But both of you need to know that to make it work. It’s a fine balance because at the same time we all have to be ourselves too.
It’s what business people have been doing since they could trade sticks and fur coats. It’s what saves the world from prehistoria and I sure do hope people figure it out real soon.